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Make-A-Wish Denied By Dad

After two years of cancer treatments, McKenna May had two dreams answered. The 4-year-old completed her last treatment for leukemia and she was granted a Make-A-Wish trip to Disney World.

But as of last week, her dream trip was dashed.

McKenna, of Haskins, will not be going to Disney with Make-A-Wish because her father doesn’t believe the wish granting organization should spend money on children who are “cured.”

And since Make-A-Wish requires both parents to sign off on wishes, McKenna lost that opportunity to visit Disney.
But McKenna’s mom and grandma are now trying to get the little girl to Florida by a different route. They have placed collection jars at businesses throughout the county for donations to send McKenna to Disney. As of Monday, the family was still far from its $3,500 goal.

Her father, William May of Toledo, said using Make-A-Wish money for a child who is “free and clear” of illness is an improper use of donations made to the organization.

“I think it should go to kids who only have six months to live,” he said.

But Susan McConnell, president and CEO of Make-A-Wish for Ohio, Kentucky and Indiana, said that McKenna clearly qualifies for a wish since she has gone through so much in her two-year struggle to beat leukemia.

“The doctors are the ones who determine if she is qualified,” McConnell explained.

McConnell said it is unfortunate that the family yanked their request for a wish since the father wouldn’t sign off.
“She’s been through a lot,” she said of McKenna. “What I really feel bad about is she is stuck in the middle.”

Though Make-A-Wish requires signatures from both parents, there are a few exceptions, such as if a parent is unknown or cannot be found. In some cases, judges have intervened and granted authority.

Wood County Probate and Juvenile Judge Dave Woessner said his court would consider issuing an order for the parental signature, but McKenna’s mom and grandma were worried that even that order wouldn’t be enough.
So they pulled their request for a trip, and put out collection jars instead.

“We have jars all over Bowling Green,” said her grandma, Lori Helppie.

“We’re trying,” said McKenna’s mother, Whitney Hughes. “Obviously we’re no where close to what we need.”
To save money, the family plans to drive rather than fly to Disney.

“The important thing is to get her there,” Helppie said. “She loves Mickey Mouse. She loves Cinderella.”

“She’s really excited,” Hughes said. “It’s all she’s talked about for the last three months.”

The mother and grandmother have no doubt that McKenna deserves the Make-A-Wish trip. She was diagnosed with leukemia in April 2010 and had her last treatment last month. During that time, she had 15 spinal taps to make sure the cancer hadn’t spread, multiple chemotherapy treatments, skin burns and vomiting from the chemo, and steroid injections that compromised her immune system. She was hospitalized four times due to high fevers. She won’t be ruled “cancer free” until five years after her last treatment.

“I’m just angry after all she went through,” Hughes said.

McKenna’s father went to very few treatments and doctor’s appointments, and was just granted visitation privileges earlier this year, the grandmother said.

Helppie said she is “outraged” that McKenna’s father wouldn’t sign off for the Disney trip.

The father, however, blames McKenna’s mother and grandmother for keeping him from seeing his daughter.

“I wasn’t allowed to be involved,” he said. “It ticked me off.”

But May said his refusal to sign off on the trip is not related to his anger at McKenna’s mother and grandmother.
“It has nothing to do with that,” he said.

However, Helppie and Hughes question his motives.

“He has made it such an ugly fiasco. It’s not about him – it’s about McKenna,” Helppie said. “But he’s doing this to get back.”

Hughes has tried to reassure McKenna that she will see Mickey and Cinderella somehow.

“I just told her we were still going to Disney,” – sometime, Hughes said.

Anyone wanting to donate to McKenna’s trip may send donations to 5/3 Bank, 275 South Main Street, Bowling Green, Ohio 43402 (419) 354-9531 to the benefit account for McKenna May.

64 Comments to Make-A-Wish Denied By Dad

  1. What in the ENTIRE fuck??? I’d love to give him a swift kick in the nuts.

  2. Me on July 19th, 2012
  3. Way to go, Dad. What a piece of shit. I hope this is just a Nethoax.

  4. Matt on July 19th, 2012
  5. $3500 for 2 people to go to Disney? WTF, are they moving in? Max of $500 to drive there…say 2 tickets for 5 days @ $100 each = $1000…and $100 hotel room each night for 6 nights (it is a long drive from Ohio). I just did the same trip with exaggerated costs for $2100.

    I do think for the dad to turn it down, he should be given the option by the courts to get his daughter for 1 week so he can take her himself on his dime.

  6. Curtieson on July 19th, 2012
  7. Father of the year right there! She may be better now but, what she’s gone through, she more than deserves to go! The amount of money that the mother is looking to reason for the trip is a little sketchy though. I just went to Orlando a few months ago and it didn’t cost no way near that amount for my boyfriend and I, including our spending money.

  8. Becky on July 19th, 2012
  9. Curieson, maybe the grandmother is going too.

    I saw this story on yahoo. Make-A-Wish said she fit their criteria to qualify. The dad is just a jerk.

  10. Jaloco on July 19th, 2012
  11. I am not sure where Curtieson got the figures for a trip to Walt Disney World, but I assure you that $3,500 is about the right price for three people. If you look at the disney tickets, you are correct with $100 per day per person (3 * 5 * 100 = 1500). Hotel rooms can be gotten for about $150 per night on property (which is where anyone who wants to have the best trip stays) so 5 nights at $150 is $600. Gas would be around $500 – again correct. That gives you a total expense of 1500 + 600 + 500 which is $2,600. Now, the other $900 would be for food (the dining plan, which is the best value, comes out to $40 per night per person, so a total of (5 * 3 * 40 = $600) which leaves $300 for souvineirs, snacks, drinks, which is not a high amount for a child’s firt trip.

  12. Jerry on July 19th, 2012
  13. How about food, parking ($12 a day at Disney), gas for the vehicle? And if it’s 5 nights at Disney – it would be 1 night on the way to disney and 1 night on the way home so it’s a minimum of 7 nights ($700). $3500 is much more reasonable than $2100. Plus, they would probably stay either on site or at the “give the kids the world” place for medical reasons – both of which (with tax) usually come to more than $100 per night.

    And yes, this Dad is a real douche canoe.

  14. Trisha on July 19th, 2012
  15. Sounds like a beggars scam. Stay home you little bastard

  16. dontgivearatsass on July 19th, 2012
  17. (Flame suit on)

    Sorry. I agree with the father and can understand his thinking, BUT he should take the daughter to Disney with his own money. If he did it that way, I don’t think there would be as many people up in arms over it and would say that he did a noble thing.

    A father is conscientious of another’s dying child and he gets chastised for it. Maybe he should just be selfish like most Americans and take the trip, causing a dying child to not get his/her final wish. Would that be better? I’m sure if the article stated that a child died before taking his/her final trip due to the father of a cured child taking the gift from the foundation, people would still call him a douche and other kiddy names.

  18. BB on July 19th, 2012
  19. What a dick!!!!

  20. Ed on July 19th, 2012
  21. So, the community should pay for the Grandma too? Anyway…the number just seems excessive and shooting high since its “free” money to them.

    In any case…this little girl now gets to actually LIVE the rest of her life, meet boys, get married, have kids and die old. There is some other 6 y/o girl that is going to die in the next 4 months that gets to meet Snow White because of what this dad has done. It’s not like the money is being thrown away.

  22. Curtieson on July 19th, 2012
  23. Trish. Do u think 2 years of cancer treatment is a walk in the park and a kid that survive that hell doesn’t deserve a trip on the house from make a wish makes you as inbred dumb as the father. Congratulations.

  24. Ed on July 19th, 2012
  25. Not Trish. I meant BB.

  26. Ed on July 19th, 2012
  27. Sorry Trish

  28. Ed on July 19th, 2012
  29. Curtieson ur a dick too

  30. Ed on July 19th, 2012
  31. I agree with the dad, not ur typical dumb American, congrats dad for doing what u think is right!

  32. sweeterspeeter on July 19th, 2012
  33. Curtieson, it cost A LOT to go to disney. Trust me I took my kid a couple of years ago and it was a serious expense. As for the little girl living her whole life, no can be sure. My son got his wish back in 95 and they thought he was going to live too. A year later the cancer came roaring back and we buried him shortly after. make a wish not for kids who are dying, it’s for kids that have gone through a seriously bad illness or disability. If people want to send money to make up for the deadbeat Dad then that is their choice. Also found Dad’s public record online and trust me she is better off without this one!

  34. me on July 19th, 2012
  35. A classic example of why some people should not be parents. This man is not only cruel but ignorant. As a father of a child who died of cancer I can tell this idiot and the other idiots like BB and Curitson that most children with only 6 months to live would be way to ill to go to Disney. BTY you uneducated fools leukemia is a terminal illness. Some children survive and some don’t.

  36. Keni on July 19th, 2012
  37. I used to work in a small town computer store. One of my favourite jobs I did at said store, was to build a Make-a-wish computer for a 16year old. It was $5000 worth of parts (2007 era.) Was water cooled, had an (at the time) unprecedented quad core chip, 16 gig ram, several 500GB disk drives, dual DVD-RW, tons of lights, fans, and a 24″ LCD Monitor.

  38. AllanVS on July 19th, 2012
  39. @Ed, No one is saying that the girl didn’t go through a lot in those two years, but the goal of the Make-A-Wish Foundation is to grant the DYING wish for kids with TERMINAL illnesses. While this girl went through an unquestionably difficult experience it doesn’t mean the father or any commenter is a dick for their opinion. Grow up

  40. Stylin on July 19th, 2012
  41. what isn’t wrong with the guy that does this to his little girl?

  42. Not A Real Person on July 19th, 2012
  43. As a person who lost her best friend at 15 to leukemia , This little girl deserves this wish. My bestfriend was diagnosed at 13 and then “free and clear” at almost 15 , she had her wish granted and 6 months later the cancer was back, she died 3 months later. You are not FREE AND CLEAR until the 5 year mark. It can come back and how horrible will this father feel if it does come back and she never gets to meet Mickey Mouse or Cinderella. Also my baby sister was granted a Disney trip through Make A Wish foundation because of a severe heart condition and 7 surgeries later she still to this day had her mickey mouse animal that was signed for her at the park. It is now and will always be one of her favorite items. I donated to Make A Wish foundation and This is exactly what i hope my donations goes to. To giving kids who have been through hell a chance to relax and enjoy a little vacation.

  44. destyne on July 20th, 2012
  45. Trust me this is a dead beat dad. He has taken money or this child in the past and used it for himself. He is a welfare case who has never supported this child. He is a total disappointment and loser who should have been starilized years ago.

  46. uneedhelp on July 20th, 2012
  47. Hey guys, the cost isn’t the issue here. The Make a Wish Foundation provides kids an opportunity to do something or have something that they can remember as a good time for the rest of their lives. My brother when he was 4 survived leukemia and they paid for my whole family to go to Disneyland and it was a great time. It went a long way in providing a positive in what was a very trying time especially for my parents. Its a wonderful charity. Now this guy does have a point BUT they can absolutely afford it easily so I don’t see what the issue is. Whats happening here if you read into it is this girls Dad is being a petty asshat and now this poor little girl who just spent years in and out of hospitals is at the center of a feud between her family. Just let her go to friggin Disney Land. Its not like he has to go. And on a side note, they can’t send kids who are basically dying because they pretty much need to be in the hospital getting treatments.

  48. Bean on July 20th, 2012
  49. To the person who named themself “me” – I am so sorry for your loss, but I’m glad he got his wish before he went.

  50. Lobster Pot Girl on July 20th, 2012
  51. “So the community has to pay for Grandma too?” Its a charity you moron.

  52. Bean on July 20th, 2012
  53. $3500 for a Disney trip is a waste. They don’t look too well off. Maybe use that money for medical bills or her education. This is why America is going downhill.

  54. THRILLHO on July 20th, 2012
  55. I hope the full wrath of the internet falls on this douchelord. His daughter just spent two years in and out of hospitals and probably lost her hair and everything during that time. Did you know that the chemicals they use in chemotherapy are so potent they can cause third degree burns if they get on your skin? You essentially have to poison your own child to get rid of the cancer. Through all of this a charity wants to provide a positive experience for the child and this guy decides to be petty about it? This is really pissing me off.

  56. Bean on July 20th, 2012
  57. THRILLHO, you just don’t get it. 3500 to let the kid have some fun after two years of cancer treatments is nothing in the face of what said treatments actually cost. Its a charity anyway. Is it really that terrible for someone to pay for a little girl who spent two years in the hospital to have a positive memory during that time?

  58. Bean on July 20th, 2012
  59. “She won’t be ruled “cancer free” until five years after her last treatment.”

    I declare that this man a Douche Lord. Lord of all the Douches.

    The cancer can come back any time. Even later in life. You are never “Free and clear”.

    Seriously, fuck this guy.

  60. Bean on July 20th, 2012
  61. Gee, Ed, do you disagree with my opinion? Lol!!!

  62. BB on July 20th, 2012
  63. Let the little girl go!

  64. sarah on July 20th, 2012
  65. @BB and others: It’s not a zero sum game. Using funds to benefit this kid doesn’t mean they will necessarily deny another terminally/seriously ill kid a trip or other wish. They specifically worked McKenna’s wish into their organization’s budget. They do this for many terminally or seriously ill kids. Kids that survive don’t have to pay back the foundation because they didn’t die. I don’t think you understand the process.

    Also, it sounds like this father may well be refusing to approve it out of bitterness and resentment.

  66. AlfaCowboy on July 20th, 2012
  67. I hope McKenna mkes a full recovery and lives a long and full life, she deserves it!

    Perfect karma for this rotten dad would be if he got cancer or some other horrible painful disease himself 20 years down the road and McKenna says, “Sorry Daddy-O, get your own sorry ass to and from treatment, I’m too busy…!”

  68. LalaWojo on July 20th, 2012
  69. Make-a-Wish is not exclusively reserved for children whose illnesses are undeniably terminal. Direct quote from the FAQ on their website:

    “Who can receive a wish?
    The mission of the Make-A-Wish Foundation®is to grant the wishes of children with life-threatening medical conditions to enrich the human experience with hope, strength and joy. Children who have reached the age of 2½ and are under the age of 18 must be referred to the Foundation and determined to be medically eligible for a wish by their physician. The child’s treating physician makes the final determination of whether a child’s medical condition qualifies him or her for a wish.
    Does a child’s condition have to be terminal to qualify for a wish?
    No. Many of the children who qualify for a wish go on to lead healthy lives. We grant the wishes of medically eligible children (i.e. those diagnosed with life-threatening medical conditions – i.e., a progressive, degenerative or malignant condition that has placed the child’s life in jeopardy.)”

  70. HG on July 20th, 2012
  71. Wow…Awesome parenting.

  72. The Dude on July 20th, 2012
  73. The Make-A-Wish Foundation mission statement, as found on their website: “We grant the wishes of children with life-threatening medical conditions to enrich the human experience with hope, strength and joy.”

    Cancer is a life-threatening illness. There is no cure for cancer, there are just some ways you can fight it. You can fight this battle for years and push it back, only to find it lurking around a few years later. It will always be a life-threating inllness from the moment you are diagnosed – that never changes. So, now that we have ascertained that this little girl has a life-threatening illness, lets move on to the question. Where in that mission statement does it say that wishes are only for those that will be dead soon?

    It doesn’t. This little girl has a life-threatening illness and as such both qualifies and deserves the wish that was granted by her doctors and the foundation. No one has the right to take that from her, especially not her dead beat dad who didn’t care enough to be there during her treatment and continues to show that he does not care about his daughter with his actions.

  74. mahshell on July 20th, 2012
  75. what a Loser! I hope Walmart fires him.

  76. Reena on July 20th, 2012
  77. She should go to Disney World. This girl has been through so much in the past two years and she deserves to go. Dad doesn’t understand or doesn’t care what his daughter has been through and that’s upsetting. He should be very greatful his kid is alive and let her enjoy herself.

  78. ES on July 20th, 2012
  79. On the one (very small) hand, I understand what this dad is doing. Or at least, his reasons. He considers his child “cured,” knows that Make A Wish is for dying children, and probably doesn’t quite understand how Make A Wish’s budget works (he probably thinks it’s a first come, first serve thing.)

    But on the other hand, his little girl had CANCER. And maybe still have it (knock on wood.) Just because she doesn’t have it right this second doesn’t mean she’s in the clear. It could come back. His little girl went through hell and back and SURVIVED. Make A Wish thinks she deserves the trip – even if she IS supposedly “cured,” – so Dad needs to stfd and stfu. She deserves this trip, and I hope she gets it.

  80. Laurski on July 20th, 2012
  81. I knew a kid who couldn’t have their wish granted by MAW because they couldn’t afford it. I’m sure the little girl has had a hard time, but it would be much better for her if her parents put their own issues aside and got along.

  82. Rachel on July 20th, 2012
  83. DOOOOOOUUUUCCCCCCCCHE BAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGG!!!!!!!!!

  84. Stacey on July 20th, 2012
  85. there are donation sites all over the web, such as gofundme.com – indiegogo.com and more. Someone who knows her or is in touch with her should maybe set up a request for funds. ;)

  86. Rob The Bob on July 20th, 2012
  87. I think it is ridiculous. The little girl deserves to go, she went through 2 years of treatments and being sick. The dad is being a jerk, IDK his reasoning but after seeing his daughter go through that for 2 years he would think he would want that for her. You don’t have to be dying tomorrow to get a wish granted, they have their criteria for a reason. He doesn’t make up the criteria, they do. If she meets it he should not be arguing it.

  88. Ashlee on July 21st, 2012
  89. After what that sweet child went through, she deserves that trip and so much more. I had breast cancer so I know, but that poor baby had no idea what was happening to her. Praise God she’s better. It’s up to the foundation to choose, if they feel she worthy, which she is, the father should just butt out!

  90. Audrey on July 21st, 2012
  91. kick the dad in the nuts!

    and send this story to disney and they may pay for all of it at least when Walt was alive he would have taken her personaly.

  92. merve on July 21st, 2012
  93. This asshole might be a sperm doner….but in my opinion HE”S NO FATHER!!!
    A FATHER would take his daughter to Disney on his own dime…
    And I’ve got news for him…This child might be in remission….but she’ll never be “cured”.
    She will have to worry about LIFE!
    I’m not sorry to say that as a FATHER I’d like to have a “discussion” with him as to the proper behavior one should exibit when ones child is ill!
    All in all in my opinion this asshole needs his rear kicked up around his ears!

  94. Tony on July 21st, 2012
  95. Probably another hoax to stir up shit with people who believe anything they read on the net. Doubtful there is any father who would deny their daughter a trip to Disney world after beating cancer.

  96. rpmoore on July 21st, 2012
  97. isn’t Make-A-Wish supposed to be for DYING children? didn’t realize it was for those who survived horrible afflictions.

    before i get flamed, i do admit this girl went through Hell and back. while i agree that MAW should be used for dying children and not those who survived, i think the girl should still get a really nice trip somewhere. the father should kick in some serious money to send the girl on the trip.

    if that were my daughter, i’d personally send her on the greatest vacation/trip that her heart desired. if that meant going into debt for the rest of my life, then it would be worthwhile.

  98. JD Storm on July 21st, 2012
  99. Does anyone know of a way to confirm the accuracy of this report? I have been looking for an opportunity to do this and will donate every cent of the $3,500. Maybe call Make A Wish on Monday?

  100. NKennedy on July 21st, 2012
  101. Oh and Make A Wish Mission Statement:
    “We grant the wishes of children with life-threatening medical conditions to
    enrich the human experience with hope, strength and joy.”

    Clearly her condition is life threatening. She is cured. But that doesn’t take away the life-threatening aspect of it. And obviously the human experience would be further enriched with hope, strength and joy with this gift.

  102. NKennedy on July 21st, 2012
  103. Link to the local news below. Regardless of your view it looks like she will get to go see Cinderella after all! $3,500 budget for mom, little sister, and grandparents seems low to me. The whole family has been through hell and back and a trip to Disney might just be a way to mend some fences.

    http://www.toledoblade.com/local/2012/07/20/Help-goes-national-as-cancer-survivor-4-will-get-her-wish.html

  104. KJ on July 21st, 2012
  105. My son was offered Make A Wish but he didn’t want to go. At the time he thought he would die if he took the trip. But a local businessman sent a group of kids and he went to see Mickey. I’m so glad he had one week of fun out of five years of pain. He does not remember everything he went through but he remembers that trip. He has had 15 years cancer free but has plenty of side effects for a lifetime. That dad must not know that remission doesn’t always last. My son had two relaps after he went into remission. Both time only foe a few months. Wish i had the extra money to send but we still are paying his medical bills off. Good luck to the McKenna.

  106. lisa on July 22nd, 2012
  107. dad deserves to have his balls cut off and denied ANY visitation with his daughter

  108. troy on July 22nd, 2012
  109. a friend of my family had leukemia as a child and was pronounced cured. now twenty years later, he is trying to get on the donors list for a new liver, because the chemo he had then caused irreparible damage. early thirties, given two years to live.

    i get both sides of the cost issue, but i say give the poor child good memories while you can, rather than family crap. you never know what time will bring

  110. Lisa T on July 22nd, 2012
  111. The Make-a-Wish foundation does not grant wishes only to terminally ill children. I am a therapist working with disabled children and a few of the children I work with have been granted wishes and none of them was dying. All did have serious illnesses/disabilities and most of these families had never been on a vacation due to caring for the sick/disabled child. She met the foundations criteria, she should be granted her wish. Perhaps a more reasonable compromise could be that she get a visit from some Disney characters at a party held locally in her honor. However, I do agree that dad is being kinda of a butthead for not allowing her to go. Is he pissed because he is not the one going with her? Is that his problem?

  112. Queenie on July 22nd, 2012
  113. good job, dad!

  114. rommel on July 23rd, 2012
  115. That dad hates his child to not allow her to see Disney. I went there in 2004, and I think the place kind of sucks, but for a child I could see it as a wonderful trip. I always wanted to go there, just did it 30 years too late.

  116. mcradloff on July 28th, 2012
  117. and i thought my ex was a deadbeat dad, cured or not after what this poor girl has been through she deserves to go

  118. mother of 4 on August 5th, 2012
  119. sounds like something my kids’ dad would do. soooo selfish!!

  120. Avynne on August 6th, 2012
  121. The father is an asshole. I can see some aspects of his opinion but but not enough to agree. It clearly states in the article that she is cancer free, however, it also states the child has to be free from cancer for 5 years before she is deemed cured. There is still a chance for the cancer to return in some form or another.

    In my opinion the Make-a-wish foundation isn’t granting a last request for this young girl but instead is celebrating a young life that could have ended too soon. It’s like going through a test. You struggle and struggle to make the grade. You succeed and you want to celebrate! The girl’s own life was put to the test and she passed. Damn it let the girl go to Disney. She desires it and that bastard of a father can shove it where the sun don’t shine!

  122. Banshee on August 20th, 2012
  123. The father hasn’t bothered to go to hardly any doctor’s visits, plus denying his daughter this trip to Disney after her ordeal… What an ignorant man. I say that he shouldn’t have any right to decide if she goes or not.

  124. Poop on August 27th, 2012
  125. Unreal. I hate it when divorced parents use their kids to get back at their ex’s. He should stump up the cash. What a nasty man. Obviously does not give a flying f@ck about his daughter.

  126. mook on December 30th, 2012
  127. I bet I know what her new wish is…

  128. JC on June 4th, 2013

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