34 Comments to Ontario Mother Of Autistic Child Given This Shocking Letter
In order for it to get to that point…that kid must be totally out of control. He must terrorize the neighborhood and lower everyones quality of life. Yet the letter writer is the bad guy…not the parents of that horrible kid….im glad i live in a rural area, where im not expected to cope with other peoples mistakes.
Troof you are an idiot and just as bad as the person who wrote this letter. The child cannot control his behavior and it is NEVER ok to say you should euthanize a child, special needs or not. That child is NOT a mistake and did NOT ask to be born with autism. I hope and pray you never have kids and if you do that they turn out better than you.
I have an autistic teenager. It is the ignorant people we deal with daily (like the letter writer and the one commenter below) that makes me wonder…should I kiss her, put her in my backseat and drive off a bridge? These are real thoughts parents of special needs children are faced with when the world seems cold and cruel to their babies.
At least have the balls to put a name to your sub-moronic post you fucking asshole. You’re nothing but a piece of shit. The best thing your father could have done was fuck that whore of a mother you have right in her diseased ass….oh wait, he did. That’s why you’re such a piece of shit. Go kill yourself fucktard before someone does it for you.
In this world we live in, unfortunately, the child does not need to be out of control for someone to react like this. If the child HAD been out of control, one would think the letter writer would have mentioned specifics. “Your child was in my yard tearing up my garden!” or “Your child was playing in traffic!” or “Please keep your child from attacking my children!” But all this writer mentions is the noise the child makes. If the mother of the autistic child were simply chaining the child to a tree in the yard and going to work, I could understand a harsh backlash from the community, but a child playing outside is hardly an out of control, “horrible” kid. It should be noted that, thankfully, this was one person’s reaction. She deso not mention other members of the community being upset, nor does she talk about a consensus among mothers there. SHe is venting, wrongly, about something that bothers her and perhaps her children. Her venom and vitriol suggest, but does not prove, that she is a very angry individual and it is unlikely that even if the child in question was completely well behaved and reasonably quiet that she would be content. Typically, I guage a person’s credibility by the number of punctuation marks and insults in their delivery. The more there are, the less of an actual case they have to stand on. I have been around children of various mental handicaps, from mildly autistic or Down Syndrome to completely non-functioning. Sometimes they make noise. Sometimes they inturrupt. Sometimes it is annoying or distracting. But never have I seen anyone display as much rage or hate as this letter writer. All I can say, when confronted with this type of display, is that I will pray for this woman, and her family, and anyone else that deals with her. Hopefully she will gain the moral charcte, patience, and compassion to turn from the antagonism and spitefulness on display in that letter.
I can bring you up to date on this matter as it happened in Ontario, Canada: The lady who received the letter was the boy’s grandmother who contacted both the police and the boy’s mother (living in another city). I’m happy to say this has backfired on the creature who wrote the letter as the community has rallied around the boy and his grandmother, and the mother’s phone has been ringing off the hook with calls from well wishers.
The matter is now being debated by the Crown Attorneys in Toronto to see what charges will be laid if and when the culprit is caught.
The only good part about this is that the rest of the neighborhood has been made aware of this letter & the mother has been getting support from them, so it should make it easy to find out who wrote that letter.
It’s horrible to think that people like that actually live in our world :’(
it scares me that a MOTHER can be so cruel and heartless. she should teach her kids to love and not judge, not to send this filth to other people cuz you dont like how her kid acts, and its more hurtful that he cant help it. sounds like she is the one who needs move away. goes to show some people have disabilities that you can see others you cant see and the disability this pathetic excuse for a mother is showing is far worse then any child can have.
This letter is disgusting. I grew up around special needs children and they’re a special gift from God. Sure some of them get loud, or touchy. I know parents (including my own mother) that would gladly adopt a special needs kid and wouldn’t trade their own child for the word. If this was posted on MY door I’d pour sacrete down her pipes… But I’m a vengeful asshole.
As does this grandmother & the beyotch that wrote such trash.
Thing is that your rights end where another’s begins.
No one has a right to tell you how to live on said property unless it infringes on the ‘rights’ of others in such a way that it violates laws, imperils others, destroys property of others, etc.
Nothing this parental trainwreck cited in her screed approaches that level.
I hope they either catch her & she suffers the public humiliation & vilification she deserves or she lives the rest of her days looking over her shoulder in fear of being discovered.
Treakle: horrific noise that stops others from quiet enjoyment of their property is what the person is talking about. A loud, out of control child is no different from loud music. The person that wrote that (IF its real) is fed up.
I am a professional behavior specialist and I work with intellectual and developmentally disabled persons on a daily basis. The letter writer in question is obviously reacting from fear of the unknown and not out of any relationship with the child or family in question. I can tell you from over 9 years of personal experience that IDD persons most of all want to be loved and respected for who they are…not what they are thought/perceived to be. Good for the community that rallied around the child and family. The letter-writer ought to try knowing a person before they start trying to stone them.
Troof: The person who wrote this had no problem with “Normal” noises, they even said music, dogs barking and babies crying were “normal” but because she doesn’t think he is normal, he should be euthanized. He wasn’t out of control either, he was just making loud noises while playing.
This letter is horrific and absolutely unacceptable… My godson is autistic and I love him dearly. That being said, I don’t have children of my own, and I work third shift so I sleep during the day. If a child was outside yelling and screaming all the time, it would upset me, special needs or not. However, there are better ways of handling it, such as talking to the (in this case) grandmother to see if there was compromise that could be reached. If I did have children and the autistic child was scaring them, my thought would be to see if I could bring my children over to meet the autistic child, and hope that even if they didn’t end up friends, they might at least better understand and therefore not be scared.
Boo hoo all you pc morons. I dont want to listen to a spastic mongloid throwing balls in my yard either. I guarantee the neighbors feel the same but everyone acts pc when they dont want to cause they are scared. All you haters of this letter are nothing but pussified do gooders who have zero spine and probably think raising your voice to a kid is “terrible”. I am god so listen to my words
Have no fears. If there’s a place called hell, there must certainly be a special place for this kind of depravity. To call this person a heartless waste of human flesh and blood is the understatement of the year.
This world is truly scary. We’ve got a writer, who is enraged to the point of suggesting child homicide, and some real world class responses to that assertion. I would not pretend to make light of working nights, in a high population density neighborhood, and listening to this child scream all day long. I’m sure it is unpleasant. But come on? Killing people? There has to be a better solution. On another side note, I’m not really too fond of this cyber-witch hunt stuff either. The writer of the letter should be ashamed of her behaviour, but that’s where it stops. Just move on, and help these people if you can. Cyber lynch mobs are not the way.
To compare the yelling of any playing child, whether that child is special needs or not, to loud and obnoxious music is quite frankly wrong, in my opinion. As somebody who has worked the night shift for many years, I do understand how loud children can be when they play. That being said, I also understand that working the night shift is my choice. The rude person who wrote that horrible, horrible letter should either insulate their house better to block out the sounds, or move to a different location. That particular child has just as much of a right to play outside as ANY other child! It’s parents like that who are raising the next generation of bullies, and I do TRULY pity her and her kids. I will pray for them.
Also, something I found to be very interesting, the letter writer was very clear to point out that “crying babies, music, and even barking dogs are normal sounds in a residential neighborhood”, but failed to classify playing children, or laughing children as normal sounds. I think that speaks VOLUMES about the type of life to which the letter writer is accustomed. I’m thinking that there just might not be very much playing, or laughing, or maybe even just happiness in general in her household. What a shame!
This message is poorly written and the spelling and grammar are way off, but the content is horrible, but what I do wonder, and I am not sure if others are wondering, is this an actual letter or is it a publicity stunt? If one of the neighbors did write this letter, it is truly vile and disgusting. I know sometimes dealing with children, particularly special needs children can be very frustrating, but a little understanding, patience and kindness are needed. Anyone can have a special needs child at anytime (accident, illness, etc). Everyone should be treated as they would like to be treated and I would be very upset if someone had posted such an ugly letter to me. I don’t care how difficult a child is, no one deserves to be “euthanized”. It is immoral and unethical and a horrible solution. This person needs to understand that some things are beyond our control and lashing out in this way is so inappropriate. I am glad the neighbors are being supportive of this family.
@coolestguyever What you call “PC” some call compassion and manners. I was raised better than to treat people that way, no matter how frustruating and upsetting the situation. I hate how you classless mannerless people accuse people with morals and values of being “PC”, I’m young but was raised by a good strong family and we know how to act. We are not upset because it’s the PC thing to do we are upset because this b***h that wrote this letter was a sick individual and I am scared for the safety of the children in her care. She has no right to complain about noises outside in the middle of the day, ESPECIALLY when they are coming from someone with a mental illness who cannot help the noises. She needs to turn the volume up on her Maury or Jerry Springer or shut her windows, I don’t care what she does to fix it on her end, but she had no right to berate this family for their mentally ill child being loud. I agree with the others that say if he was that damaging she’d have cited actual occurances. The fact that she didn’t tells me all I need to know, and the fact that she didn’t sign it tells me she knew she was wrong from the get go.
I couldn’t get a posting to take the other day but I’d like to echo what Melissa and Sah have said, I don’t really believe this is a legitimate letter.
Just a feeling I have and it could be all wet, but I think the mother herself wrote this.
I agree with drm. Public humiliation should be the extent of the letter writer’s punishment. Legal action is not warranted (no pun intended) nor necessary. How are those provincial human rights commissions workin’ out for ya, Canada – restrict free speech much?
Hmmm. I understand if the kid is outside yelling and screaming for a long time. Or if the kid is inside and the houses are so close together that the noise still makes it outside.
I try to imagine what the parents and grandparents are going through.
The person who wrote the letter may have, oh, I don’t know – MAYBE TALKED TO THE GRANDMOTHER instead of voicing their dissatisfaction the way they did. And as someone else pointe out, at least have the courage to sign your name. By sending it the way you did – you proved what a small minded coward you are.
The problem is the loud wailing. If it is a problem, call the police. If the police get called enough, Social Services will come take the child if the mother is obviously not tending to the child’s needs and just letting the neighborhood watch. It was a very hateful letter yes, and as someone pointed out, it was not our of fear of the unknown. You, person, are an idiot. It’s anger. It’s total anger of the noise constantly happening all day long outside. if the entire neighborhood can hear it, it is a nuisance. Plain and simple. If you have a problem with someone, don’t say they need to be killed. We all deserve (for the most part in here) to live. The letter was wrong, the anger is well-placed, but the directive to resolve is headed in the wrong direction.
Oh my god!! The mother writing that should be shot & her own kids taken away for even suggesting the child be put down along with everything else she wrote. The point of this isn’t wheather the kid is out of control & not being supervised,it’s about a neighbor that has no compassion for the disabled of any kind. If the kid wasn’t being supervised when outside,then the neighbor could of written a letter of concern along with adding if the kid was doing something to her children or to her property. You can’t keep a child like that quiet or out of trouble because they don’t understand what propriate behavior is. Her letter was way beyond wrong..it was inappropriate,misguided,& she discriminates. She spoke for the entire neighborhood..I doubt all of them discriminate & that they understand special needs people. That stupid woman should of researched mental disabilities & what type of person this kid could be,then she could of understood inorder to approach the mother. If this hateful woman feels this way about people being different,then she is one step away from dealing with that kid in her own way. Plus I can imagine what type of parent she is & what she is teaching her children. Children imitate their parents behavior so this cow gave her children the excuse to do it themselves. Being the other parent I would of posted a letter on everyones door if I didn’t find out who the neighbor was. It would of rudely told her as to what type of person she is & as to how she could go screw herself..among other things. I hope she found out who wrote it & beat the crap out of her. This hateful cow will be confronted with karma eventually by putting her in a wheelchair or do something to one of her kids. It’s a shame that the kids take the fall for what the parent does,& lets a person like her even exist.
THAT IS NOT OKAY! That fucking bitch and her “normal” children should just fucking leave. You DO NOT say that kind of shit. I fucking HATE people like that with a fiery passion. You just don’t say that kind of shit. I would’ve gone over there and beat the fuck out of that insensitive fucking bitch!! I fucking hope she knows the meaning of pain, I don’t ever wish bad upon anyone but that fucking stupid ass ignorant cunt deserves it! END OF DISCUSSION!!!!
I used to live next door to a challenged child, probably 12-15 years ago. not sure if he was autistic or what sort of problems he had. I just remember the child was a special needs kid.
I do remember he had a habit of howling uncontrollably. it wasn’t unusual for this to take place for hours at a crack.
believe me, it gets really hard to listen to this over the course of a few years. sometimes it meant having to turn up my tv considerably louder. other times, it meant blasting the radio a bit louder then I wanted. it was really a case of not wanting to hear the howling all the time.
I think the kid’s mom knew I was attempting to be patient. she knew if I turned up a few things at my place, it was the best option I could think of. she knew I avoided bitching as she was doing her best to help her kid.
if I remember right, she eventually sent her kid to a facility that could better help him. her kid simply grew to a point where she no longer could manage him, on her own.