I’m a dad of 3 now grown kids. Not once did we have to let them cry themselves to sleep. It isn’t that hard to sit the kid in your lap and let her go to sleep and then put her to bed. Sticking a little kid in a dark room, alone, is the stupidest idea so-called civilized people have come up with. And no, I’m not some kind of back to nature tree-hugger nit wit
All this did is show that kid that all they have to do to get their way is scream and make noise until someone gets annoyed enough to come and give you what you want. That being said, there were other options to accomplish the same thing. Like holding the kid in a rocking chair until they fall asleep then putting them in bed. There should be no reason for an adult to crawl into a crib with a baby just to shut them up.
That child is pretty old to be at risk for SIDS- she’s old enough to stand up and crawl around. Babies are at most at risk for SIDS when they are unable to move themselves out of a compromising position.
If you can’t cite evidence, make it up! Reduces the amount of hormones going through their brains, causing brain cell death, indeed. Which hormones are these, and how do we know brain cells are dying for lack of them? Are scientists regularly sampling brain cells from crying and non-crying babies, to document the loss of cells in the crying babies? Yeah, right.
Deep Thought, SIDS really isn’t much of a risk in an infant old/strong enough to stand up in a crib. It’s primarily a risk for a child who can’t turn over yet. It’s quite possible the bumpers were added later, when the child was pulling up.
I thought the people on this site were internet saavy enough to look information up rather than me having to spam the page with links. Deep thought is half correct. The crib bumpers are a risk of suffocation, not sids but they are a risk. Since you people aren’t capable of doing research yourselves, here are 3 articles that aren’t hard to find or read.
all you have created is a rod for your back and a spoilt brat of a child who will still be doing this crap till she/he is 18, get use to that look of frustration on your face…put in bed, walk out, she cries walk in lay her down DO NOT SPEAK,walk out, keep repeating except make the time between coming back and laying her down longer and longer .. pandering to a spoilt brat at this age will only make her worse and less bearable when shes outside the home and why should the rest of us put up with your FAILURES
oh and crying NEVER hurt a baby however parents like this do hurt them, babies need routine, discipline and parents who are actually willing to be just that PARENTS not pussies to be pushed around by their children, no wonder there are so many spoilt brats in this world who think they can do what they want to do and you only have to look at this perfect example
what kinda dumbass uploads a video like this?? oh yea that guy…he needs more attention I think he should kill himself. glad this is not the video where he’s wearing a diaper in crib spanking the falaffle
The idiotic notion that crying is harmful to babies makes me want to forcibly sterilize any moron who actually believes such bullshit. Yes, you should respond when your NEWBORN cries. NEWBORNS cry for a reason- when they’re hungry, wet, dirty, or in pain, and should not be left to cry it out. Babies this child’s age have the mental capacity to figure out that if someone comes running every time they cry, all they have to do is throw a fit to get their way. Giving in to crying fits at this age does nothing but teach them that you’re their bitch & they’re the boss.
All this ridiculous hippie crap like attachment parenting, co-sleeping, running at every whimper, and breastfeeding until f*cking kindergarten are directly responsible for all the spoiled, entitled brats we have nowadays & all the shitty parents who think it’s “cute” when their precious little snowflake throws food at other people in restaurants. It’s MUCH easier to raise a well-behaved, well-adjusted child when you start setting boundaries & using age-appropriate discipline early on than it is to rehabilitate an older child who was raised to think the world revolves around them.
And BTW- literally EVERYTHING kills brain cells. BREATHING too fast kills brain cells. You’re not gonna raise the next Einstein just by dropping everything every time your baby cries. Christ.
JJ et. al., what I said was cot bumpers are a risk factor in SIDS, i.e there is an established correlation between SIDS and the presence of bumpers. Now, correlation does not necessarily mean causation, but if it is known that cot bumpers are present in a significant proportion of SIDS cases, then surely the prudent thing to do is not to have cot bumpers.
Caro, you are correct, but my understanding the risk is less for children this age, but by no means gone. I seem to recall news stories of SIDS cases in babies nearly a year old; if I can find sources, I’ll post them.
Lastly, the elevation and angle of the picture, and lack of camera shake, suggests the video was shot by a fixed camera, i.e a security camera. I find this odd and more than a little creepy.
There is nothing wrong with comforting a crying baby. Yeah, crawling into the crib with the baby is kind of weird. I would have just picked her up and held her for a while…until she fell asleep. Then put her back in the crib.
that is completely adorable! its awesome to see dad and baby having the bond….. but advise to dad.. get baby a toddler bed w/ rails! much easier to sneak out of and definitely more comfy if u have to end up there for the night
This is awesome! i have done this numerous times with my daughter. Sleeping in a rocking chair is not very comfortable (for either mommy or baby) and i completly enjoy the cuddle time i get with her when i do have to do this! This is one awesome dad! and how cute is that little one that she just wants to lay on him!! Too cute!
We do not know the back story, Maybe she was sick or something like that and the parent did not feel right leaving them alone. Yes children need routine and structure, but sometimes they just need mommy or daddy after a hard day. He is a great dad for taking the time to cuddle and love his child. at least he didn’t slam her into a wall like so many parents who cant get there child to stop screaming.
I do not think this is awesome, I think it’s sad. I feel bad for the little girl, but unless dad plans on doing that every night it’s not a good thing to do. Yes I’m a parent, raised 4 of them, all fine adults now. You need to make sure nothing is wrong and let them learn to self sooth or they end up a very sad child that needs to look to others for comfort all the time.
Thanks, Boober; that’s just what I was thinking. I think it’s very sweet. What do all you others care what one parent choosed to do?! And THIS is not the reason for kids with self-entitlement issues. I think that comes more from parents buying kids off because they don’t want to spend time with them.
No this may not be the direct cause of “Self-entitlement” issues…but a logical person can deduce that a child that knows they can get what they want when they cry…will grow up with that same notion and be come a Kindergartner who pitches a fit when they don’t get what they want…and so on the process goes…until adulthood when you have a full grown adult who can’t handle being told no…
I’m not saying parents should never sooth a child when their crying, or check on them to make sure they are ok…but as many have said on here already…babies and children need routine and structure. They need clear boundaries to aid them in to developing as self sufficient adults.
This video is showing love…yes…the dad does love his little girl very much…but it also shows a lack of self control on the dads part…yes its hard to hear your girl cry…and yes every parent wants to go and comfort them every single time they cry…but sometimes parents just need to resist the urge…for the sake of the child.
and just a question for you to think about…yes some parents buy their children off so they don’t have to spend time with them (which is very sad) but do you really think that is the only reason parents “buy their kids off”? what about the parent who buys a kid a toy just so they will stop pitching a fit in the store? or the parent who buys their teen a new computer or cell phone just so they will stop acting out and whining about it? these are causes too…and they are caused by NOT SETTING CLEAR BOUNDARIES AS BABIES….
For all the people who complained about the kid with the dyed hair, this is the one you should be complaining about!!! This is “cute” but what did Dad just teach that child, I will give in to what you want if you cry and throw a fit. Personalities are completely developed by the time we are 2 . . . you can’t go back and change that. Also there is merit to having your child learn to self-comfort. WOW! I am glad I will not be living in that house in 12 years!!!!
While it is a little strange that Dad got in the crib with his daughter, I have to say I don’t think there is anything wrong with not making your child cry themselves to sleep. My LO is 9 months old and she sleeps in the bed with us. She is at the age where she realizes what she is doing and doesn’t just cry when she wants something. But you know what, she gets disciplined when she is bad, she doesn’t get what she wants when she throws a fit (instead she gets in trouble). Just b/c you choose to co-sleep or choose not to let your child “cry it out” does not mean that your child will be a spoiled brat. It takes a lot more than that to have a spoiled child!
The U.S is one of the few countries that does not allow their children to sleep with them. We have the liberty of space that has allowed us to put our babies in their own rooms alone. Yet, it has been proven that babies that sleep in the parent’s bed sleep better, have higher self esteem, lower incidents of SIDS, have stronger immune systems and become independent faster. I really lovely and eye opening movie is ‘Babies’. Shows how different children are treated and raised around the world. Honestly, the American couple was the coldest and most rigid.
Most of the time my kids cried it out, sometimes though, when they were sick or teething, and they just cried and cried and cried and cried and the lack of sleep was driving me batshit buggy, they slept with us, because sometimes a baby just needs mommy/daddy to comfort them…
my kids arent spoilt brats because they slept in my bed and i didnt leave them to cry it out, nor are they emotionally stunted
because they occasionally had to cry it out.
as for the camera/creepy thing? um…how? its not like its in a teen kids room, they have the camera in their babys room so they can monitor their child while they’re working in their office/cooking dinner/whatever.
if we had a house instead of renting an apartment we would have this type of set up in our kids rooms.
i guess we’re creepy because we want to ensure our kids safety even when we cant be in the same room
i didn’t have bumpers because i thought they were dangerous(SIDS) and my baby girl got her leg caught in the bars of the crib. so i started using them. this baby’s old enough to not have to worry about sids anyway.