My mom busted my but pplenty of times for different things. I turned out fine. It doesn’t hurt no ones self esteem just their pride for a little while and teaches respect and obedience and even patients if you had to go the the switch tree and get your own.
Probably bluff, but why take a chance? My husband is the most-nonviolent man in the world, but I came home one day to find him sitting in the doorway of our two younger daughter’s incredibly messy room, with his watch in one hand and his belt in the other, and both girls scurrying around like mad. I didn’t ask questions – just kept moving.
Ya know my old man used to whip my ass with a belt . Sometimes I think just for the fun of it. Happened till I was out of high school. One day he came to my house and tried to talk shit to me. I put an ass wuppin on him till he was hauled off by the ambulance. Best thing I ever did and have not had to put up with him or see his ugly ass for 20 years. Yea assholes go ahead and beat your kids it pays off.
I am for it as long as the parent remembers not to be to mad while doing it. I think thats when it gets out of hand. @tazz I agree completly with you. My daughter is 15 now and I’ve only used the belt 6 times her whole life but I think she is a better kid because of it. I have to say though it doesn’t work for all kids. My mom used the belt, her hand, switches, and the flyswatter on my butt plently and o how I hated her growing up but I respected her as much as kids can when they are young! I stand by a this statement ” a hated parent is a good parent”. We were not ment to be friends with our kids untill they have kids.
It is against the law to hit criminals, other adults, or animals. Why is it acceptable to beat up a defenseless child? Stop being lazy. Children need structure and discipline, no doubt, but parents need to find creative and effective ways to discipline their children without using physical violence. Violence creates a cycle that is hard to break.
I believe use of a belt is over the top. I never had to use a belt, just using my hand was enough. I believe the true problem is not following through. If you tell them you’re going to spank them don’t keep talking about it-do it. It’s should be an attention getting, not to cause pain. There were 4 of us and none of us has every been in trouble and are respectful and law abiding. We raised our kids the same way, too. They also turned out OK. Grandkids, too
I’ll tell you I needed every hide tanning I got. I learned alot from them. the hot wheels track hurt the worse. I froze on Santa’s lap once. He asked if I wanted some hot wheels. My reply was no hot wheels that track hurts.
One other possibility: Dad found the belt and some other paraphernalia and suspects Junior is “shooting up”. As for spanking kids: Spanking is OK. Beating a child is inexcusable. I raised two and only had to spank once for each. That let them know that Dad meant business. Only one of my granddaughters has ever given me a problem and all I had to do with her was a light tap with two of my fingers on her bare leg.
wow, I’m the only one who saw it this way?…
He found evidence on the computer that his kid’s curious about autoerotic asphyxiation and now they need to have a talk about safety.
Gawd. No one beats kids anymore, ya freakazoids! Way to turn it into something ugly.
The more comments I read, the more I realize how uneducated so many people in the USA are. No wonder people from other countries think we are a bunch of ill-educated dolts! An education is free in this country. Take advantage of it! Yes, it is free. Yes, it is paid for by tax dollars. BUT, you don’t have to be a taxpayer to go to public school. I am a high school drop out and my English skills are better than 90% of the people who comment on these things. I did get my GED 6 months after dropping out. When I was in school, there weren’t many schools that had gifted programs. I fell through the cracks. I was bored with my classes.
Well, it’s plain, stylish and of simple design. The buckle is a traditional square type with a single pin. It appears to be practical and nondescript. Other than that I doubt I’ll have many thoughts about it at all.
@ Tianna: I think a belt is excessive but it is NOT child abuse to spank your child with your open hand on their clothed bottom. My information comes from asking DYFES caseworkers during my internship with them (college). I don’t think you should spank your kids for every little infraction, but sometime it is necessary. Timeouts, warnings, and losing things don’t always work. I am NOT a terrible parent or person but if everything else fails and my daughter is still misbehaving I will tap her on her bottom. It is called DISCIPLINE and I wish parents were not afraid to discipline their children. From your post I am guessing that you do not have children. I was a preschool teacher for over 3 years (3-4 yr olds) and I could always tell which children were disciplined at home and those that were not.
Um hitting is hitting. Doesn’t matter where you hit or with what or etc etc… “Johnny!” (slap slap) “I told you NO HITTING!(slap slap)
That makes no sense people, and study after study shows its not effective.
I cant wait until a few more generations to by and we weed out the margin of society who responds to frustration with violence. We’ve evolved. We used to burn people because they said they earth was round, and stone women for being witches. Kids used to work in factories. We used to bleed people to make them better.
Yeah. We’ve evolved people. Thank goodness we’ve evolved.
People keep saying spanking is “discipline”. Wrong. Discipline means “to teach”. Spanking is punishment, plain and simple. We have never spanked our two boys. If you’re a good parent, then no punishment will be necessary. Our parenting motto is “we’re raising adults, not children”. You can’t hit other adults, so why hit children? They’re only children for 18 years, the other 50+ years they are adults – teach them how to act like it. Their boss isn’t going to hit them to get them to work faster.
When I was a child I was a monster, no doubt. My parents tried everything and nothing worked, but to be spanked. Do I think it is necessary in all situations? No. Most kids need discipline but in some cases that just doesn’t work. In my opinion spanking is not abuse as long as it is spanking and not beating. There is a difference between 5 slaps and 20 punches.
logic, I agree. If there is no anger behind the spanking then there is no intention to hurt the child, like some form of anger/animosity towards them, it’s not abuse. IF there is such a feeling and you hit them because of said feeling to feel relieved it becomes abuse. Abuse comes from negative intentions, in order to hurt the other person. Not all kids respond to alternative discipline methods though, and the same can be said about spanking.
I believe spanking should last resort, unless you tell the child “if you do it again I’ll spank you”- only because I’ve seen kids who parents do this who don’t follow through, who believe they now get away with everything.
@JK; “People keep saying spanking is “discipline”. Wrong. Discipline means “to teach”. Spanking is punishment, plain and simple.”
So you are saying that punishment is not teaching. Why do we punish criminal then by throwing them in jail and takign away their rights? Should we just make them take classes to educate them on why what they did was wrong? Should we put them in the corner for time out too?
I agree that spanking is punishment. Punishment is earned by doing something that you are not supposed to do. My children get spanked, my children get grounded, and my children have gotten popped in their mouth. Why? Because I’ll be damned if my chldren are going to grow up to be some smart mouthed brats that think the world should just hand them everything and that there are no serious consequences to ones actions.
I grew up in an abusive home where a belt could be used for discipline for just about anything. something as simple as talking back? You got the belt. My brother even got hit in the face with it once. Thankfully my mom put a stop to it after that. But because of my experiences I don’t think a belt is ever okay to use on young children. Maybe older ones that can take the pain a bit better and it depends on circumstance.